Have you ever walked past two cats lying in a cuddling
position? Or a dog? Or a dog and a cat?
They are always in a rather cute
position and if you are an animal lover like me you will end up smiling. It is
often stated that women love to cuddle more than men and that men are not in
agreements with such arrangements. Cuddling is always part of the human race
just like sex is. It is there before sex, after sex or when there is no sex at
all. However, cuddling can bring in more pleasure than sex at times (don’t
shoot me if you disagree). Here is why I think so.
Cuddling is a physical affair which eventually leads to
intimacy and emotional satisfaction. It brings two people together to share a
space and relaxes both parties. It has been studied and proven that cuddling
brings satisfaction to both a man and a woman in a relationship. It all depends
if cuddling has been initiated at the right time and if done correctly (will
get back to this later on). A recent research studied 1000 couples who have
been married for over 25 years together. Apparently, as women grow older, their
sexual needs increase and pleasure is peaked and sexual satisfaction is
paramount. On the other hand, men tend to prefer to cuddle and touch as a way
of feeling happy and satisfied. This is
not to shy off the unmarried peeps.
Cuddling in general has the following
benefits:
- · It reduces stress
Cuddling has been proven to releasing oxytocin which helps
to curb stress. This is a hormone that comes from the brain and is also known
as the “feel good” hormone as it reduces anxiety and leaves one feeling happy.
On a more practical bit it can be explained as follows. After a long day at
work or school and you are feeling stressed out, getting into a cuddling
position with your spouse or partner helps you feel secure and relaxed, and
after sometime you will feel relaxed.
- · Increases levels of intimacy
Cuddling is a physical contact and the more you get
physically attached to someone (not in a sex situation), the more you will be
bonded to one another. Cuddling brings in the emotional aspect of both parties
and makes each other feel bonded to one another in a beautiful manner. It
increases the level of intimacy between you and your partner and will result in
both of you feeling happy and fulfilled.
- · Creates a good communication
Cuddling allows people to ‘invade’ into the private spaces
of one another. Lying close to someone in a cuddling position makes them feel
comfortable and relaxed. This initiates conversations which are both personal
and intimate. After sometime, both
parties will end up understanding each other more and getting to know each
other better. This is achieved by constant cuddling.
Cuddling turn-offs
The benefits of cuddling are many and at the end of the day,
make your relationship healthier and happier. However, there are some things
that should be considered before initiating a cuddle as they may end up being a
total turn off and make the other party uncomfortable.
For instance, just having sex, you should allow your man or
woman to relax a few and catch his/her breath. Do not finish the deed and
immediately pounce on their chests or get too close to them. This makes it so
gross as both of you are covered in sweat, its smelly and slippery (you get the
picture, right?). Cuddling should be done after both of you are relaxed and
feeling better.
Women are known to be cuddlier than men but it does not hurt
to reciprocate the favors. It should not be the case always that one party is
in for the cuddly bits. This will make the other party feeling less wanted and
annoyed at your lack of sensitivity and concern for their needs. If you need to
talk with your new partner or your partner beforehand, then you should do it.
Tell them how you view cuddling and am sure you will come to an agreement at
some point that will be satisfactory to both of you.
As for men, you should not make it too obvious that cuddling
is your gate to nakedness. This will be a turn off to the woman you are lying
next to as it will lose meaning to her. We know that’s what you are obviously
thinking of achieving, but please be a little discreet.
Here are a few cuddling positions that will start you off in
this month of love
- As a woman, you become the big spoon
I know of some few women who will give me a snare for saying
so but it does not hurt if once in a while you become the big spoon. The
feeling that we get when we are the small spoon, assume that your man is
feeling the same. With your eer….near your man’s booty, it will arouse some of
his nerves and make him feel happy.
- Tweak your spooning technique
With a spooning image in mind, with you (woman) being a
small spoon now, turn a little and lie on your back and entangle your leg in
the middle of your man’s leg. This will make you be in a position to be looked
at and kissed and at the same time, your man does not have to be concerned
about any arms on him.
-
Cuddling while facing each other
This is a very comfortable position but can be dreadful if
one of you suffers from oral hygiene. However, if you are confident enough you
can get into this position and wrap your arms around each other. Do not get too
close near your heads as the breathing space might get crowded. As you are
facing each other, tangle your legs together crossing each other. You can look at each other in this position,
talk and even smile and kiss.
- Let him use your lap as a pillow
Women are the ones that often do this but a man will enjoy
it too. While watching a movie or TV, allow your man to lie on your thighs. As
he is there, rub his scalp lovingly and slowly and don’t forget the behind the ears.
It has been said that men’s ears are super-sensitive and boom! You got your
score them. If you need the same to be done to you, just ask him. Which man can
refuse a woman lying on his crotch?
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