Reasons as to why sometimes people hang on a little more to single hood

Single ladies cast at an interview with Tami

I am a huge fan of the chick-flick series “single ladies” by VH1. The series talks of three women from different backgrounds who are trying to find love, success and prosperity in the city of Atlanta, Georgia. The series is full of drama, romance, betrayal and mysterious twists. The endings of each episode leaves me in suspense that I end up juggling through my mind how the next episode will be like. The series produced by Queen Latifah came to a cancellation in February 2014 but it was later been renewed by BET network Centric two months later. I guess it has a huge fan base especially in the United States. The scenes in the series usually have beautiful ladies and hot, handsome men who later date or have a fling with one another. Both genders have a high sense of fashion, as their clothes are classy and elegant and are designer made. However, the series brings out the Hollywood version of single ladies which is full of exaggeration and too much promiscuity.

One thing about the series that I love most is the fact that these single ladies believe in themselves. They do not sit down in the house a whole year and cry their eyes dry because of break ups. They do so for a short duration of time and bounce back to the dating scene. As much as they are not interested in dating other people, they are still spotted in the crowd. This might be because the men out there notice their sense of independence, confidence and love for themselves. These are the qualities a single woman or lady should exhibit everywhere she goes. It does not have to be through verbal announcements but rather through their body language and posture.

Advantages of single-hood

1. I was/have been single for some time and the status is not as bad as people make it look like. one thing about being single is, one does not have to worry about making calls and sending messages to people at any time. You are not obligated to explain why you have become so silent and if you switch off your phones, only the parents and relatives have the right to question why you did so.

Secondly, being single allows one to move around anywhere and everywhere. If one decides to take a trip to the beach up in Mombasa or Zanzibar, they do not have to start consulting and telling people in advance. The trip is for you alone and you only have to notify someone you will be going there for the sake of knowing your whereabouts. This can be done on that morning when you are boarding a matatu or taking a flight to the coastal regions. Down at the coast you will also have the advantage of choosing where and with whom you are planning to stay with despite of the relationship between you two. You can stay with your friends from the past or present. Single hood enables you to choose where and who you stay with no restriction and explaining to do.

Thirdly, as a single lady or gentleman, one is entitled to go to as many dates as possible. You can go for up to three dates in a day. It is the fun times of being single. I recall an instance where my girlfriend who was single used to go for a date everyday of the week. Each evening or during lunchtime, she would have a date to go. It was fun and thrilling as she was meeting new people every day and interacting with them. She came back later after the dates and excitedly described her experiences. She was having a good time all right despite having to some annoying dates as well. 

Lastly, dating gives you the freedom to flirt as much as you would want.  There is no harm in flirting. It actually makes you alert and happy. You can flirt with a million women or with a thousand men if you wish to do is. However, in flirting I am not referring to extending it to other stages (am sure you are flowing with me here). 

Boring side of single-hood

I call this one a boring side because it is really really boring! After sometime of being single, one gets lonely. One feels lonely when they see friends going out with their spouses for movies, dinner dates or even road trips. One feels lonely during the cold, rainy season where there is no one to cuddle with, or spend those cold days with. This is the only one great disadvantage of being single.

In conclusion, when you find yourself back to the single club, embrace it. make sure that you make the best of it and make memories. On the other hand, when you cross over to the couples land always wave back to the singles club.

Do enjoy the rest of your weekend friends. 

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